Tuesday, September 14, 2010

In Ever Loving Memory of Lovely Evana (2 Oct 2009 - 5 Sept 2010)

I felt so honoured to present a speech during the funeral service at the church for Lovely Evana. 
This was my speech...

"Yes Jesus love you (3x), The bible tells me so..lovely lovely please don’t cry, lovely lovely close your eyes, lovely lovely time to sleep,  mummy here take care of you………….
My brothers & sisters in Christ..my name is Freda and I was the grandaunt of Lovely Evana…

The song that i just sang was not just an ordinary song. It was not just a gospel song but that was the lullaby , which was always sang by Lovely’s mum, Lisa (My beloved best friend, childhood friend and darling cousin),  had made her heart rate beat faster and stayed a little longer by her side while she was struggling on a battle to live on her critical moment last Sunday morning..it was hard, and indeed painful to let her go..but she had enough to suffer  for 11 months..At last, we let her go to be with the Lord and spread her wings to become an angel in heaven.

Lovely Evana was born on the 2nd October, 2009 during the Guardian Angels Feast Day. She was diagnosed to have ‘Large PDA Heart’ not long after she was born. Thus, she had to undergo heart operation at IJN, KL when she was only four months..Unfortunately she didn’t recover fully from the operation and her heath condition got even worse, whereby it affected both of her kidneys. She had been in an out from the hospital mostly and more and more illnesses were discovered. Soon, she had lungs infection and suffered breathing difficulty. ..alas, she succumbed to death on Sept 05 at 12.50am due to kidney failure, chronic lung infection..

However, during her lifetime, she had been known well by the nurses and doctors even the security guards in the hospital..not because of her illnesses, but because she was lovely and cheerful..Lovely Evana (What a wonderful name suit her personaliy)…she had lighted our days, touched our hearts but she never failed to give her lovely smile with a cute dimple on her right cheek (dimple-dimple)..blink her eyes like ‘mingkikiut’ (eyes-eyes)…She’s the most  steadfast  baby I’d ever seen, who was always ill but cheerful..nobody will ever have the sweetest smile like Lovely Evana again, and She will be forever missed and never forgotten. .

Our Tiny darling angel, Lovely Evana…rest in eternal peace in heaven. Your Mummy, daddy, koko, grandmas & granddads, uncles & aunties will always love and remember you in our hearts & prayers.

We'll remember you with all your special nuances and our memories from all the days gone before that we were privileged to share with you...

And today we'll grieve for you, and cry for you and even smile because of you...
And in all the tomorrows we'll feel you - gone in some ways, but your presence ever near.
Go well...stay well...always."

Little Angel Unknown

© Ronnie Hunter
A little angel unknown I, am, my place is as an angel in a secret land.
I didn't have a name as such, you didn't get the chance,
I wasn't meant to live on earth just touch you by the hand.
I've been sent to touch your lives and I know you’ll think that cruel,
but its only special people that are chosen exceptions to the rules.
I knew you would love me from the very start,
from that first sighting & beating of my tiny heart,
so I know that it will hurt you that you have to say goodbye,
but I am your guardian angel now and I'll dry the tears from your eyes.
I'll be there by your side wherever you now go,
I will hear you speak of me often & what I might have been if I'd grown,
I'll be the special angel in the picture that you have,
I'll remind you of my brother & my dad,
I'll have your little features all of you as one
& I'll love you always as my special mum.
You might not have got to see me as a living breathing thing,
but I'll be the ribbon around your heart and my love will be deep within,
this pleasure I promise will be mine,
to be your guardian angel from now until the end of time.
I'll gift you with my presence every night within your dreams,
walk always as your special unknown angel
gifted to you within just for a short while,
so think of me often and smile,
For I, am your very own special unknown gifted child.

Source: Little Angel Unknown, Baby Death Poems http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/death/poetry.asp?poem=21737#ixzz0zTI0g5Xz

A Message of Hope from Nick Vujicic

These quotes give an insight to the plight of those people who have failed in their lives and their feelings of heart.

My will shall shape the future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man's doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice; my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny.
Elaine Maxwell

You've got to take the bitter with the sour.
Samuel Goldwyn

Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
Pearl S. Buck

Most things break, including hearts. The lessons of life amount not to wisdom, but to scar tissue and callus.
Wallace Stegner

The best way out is always through.
Robert Frost

A failure is a man who has blundered but is not capable of cashing in on the experience.
Elbert Hubbard

We learn wisdom from failure much more than from success. We often discover what will do, by finding out what will not do; and probably he who never made a mistake never made a discovery.
Samuel Smiles

Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err.
Mohandas K. Gandhi

It is a mistake to suppose that men succeed through success; they much oftener succeed through failures. Precept, study, advice, and example could never have taught them so well as failure has done.
Samuel Smiles

The torment of human frustration, whatever its immediate cause, is the knowledge that the self is in prison, its vital force and "mangled mind" leaking away in lonely, wasteful self-conflict.
Elizabeth Drew

It is very easy to forgive others their mistakes; it takes more grit and gumption to forgive them for having witnessed your own.
Jessamyn West

Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.
Robert F. Kennedy

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing.
George Bernard Shaw

There are two kinds of failures: those who thought and never did, and those who did and never thought.
Laurence J. Peter

It is on our failures that we base a new and different and better success.
Havelock Ellis

Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.
Winston Churchill

Mishaps are like knives, that either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle.
James Russell Lowell

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure: which is: Try to please everybody.
Herbert B. Swope

Do not waste yourself in rejection, nor bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas Alva Edison

Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
Winston Churchill

If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.
Anais Nin

I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
Thomas Alva Edison

Failure is instructive. The person who really thinks learns quite as much from his failures as from his successes.
John Dewey

Life is to be lived, not controlled, and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat.
Ralph Ellison

The deepest human defeat suffered by human beings is constituted by the difference between what one was capable of becoming and what one has in fact become.
Ashley Montagu

The mystery of existence is the connection between our faults and our misfortunes.
Madame de Stael

Good people are good because they've come to wisdom through failure. We get very little wisdom from success, you know.
William Saroyan

Love the moment. Flowers grow out of dark moments. Therefore, each moment is vital. It affects the whole. Life is a succession of such moments and to live each, is to succeed.
Corita Kent

A garden is always a series of losses set against a few triumphs, like life itself.
May Sarton

It is better to have enough ideas for some of them to be wrong, than to be always right by having no ideas at all.
Edward de Bono
You won't skid if you stay in a rut.   
Kin Hubbard

Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.
Oscar Wilde

No garden is without its weeds.
Thomas Fuller

We read the world wrong and say that it deceives us.
Rabindranath Tagore

Not doing more than the average is what keeps the average down.
William M. Winans
A Failure is not important..How you overcome it is....